Cant a guy and gal be just friends…???

“Beta, I saw you with a girl on Andheri station…who was she???”, “Who is the girl wearing red T-shirt in this pic…??”, my mom asked. “She is a school friend mummy”, I replied. Next was a bouncer question. “Why are your hands on her shoulder and is this the same gal who was with you on Andheri station???”. I was shell shocked! I thought for a while then I kept mum because replying to her question means more questions thrown at me.

Is this a big issue??? Going out with some friends of the opposite gender or putting your hand on the shoulder of your pal…I think its completely baseless to even think about such petty issues. But yeah that’s what I think. What about those million parents and elders who keep on tormenting us with such silly questions?? For a change I asked my parents why do they keep asking these questions. Now the reply was a BOUNCER. “This age is not right. You are tempted to do so many bad things.”….I interrupted, “What bad things??? You know I don’t smoke nor do I drink nor will I take in drugs and finally I am not a tapori”…She says, “Beta, you are not getting my point. You get attracted to opposite sex”… “ Well, mom that’s natural, how do you stop it.?? By not meeting your friends of the opposite gender or not talking to them???”…Now comes the common reply to end the conversation…“When you have your own kids only then will you come to know”.

Haha…I started laughing in my mind…a devil’s laugh. How can I have kids if I follow what you say?? Well that’s not a matter of concern here. Why aren’t people thinking in the right way. Why are girls questioned every time they come home late. They are humans too. There can be infinite circumstances to cause a delay but why only one question is asked…”Who was with you?”

I am sick n tired of this mentality. Well I have to admit that we eye many people from the opposite gender, we have crushes, we have hidden feelings and we think about them. But does this mean that if I am out with my best friend (gal) I am doing the same with her. Well I cant even think of perceiving things the way adults perceive it. Well if you see two opposite gender friends talking in the real or virtual world why cant you people think they are good friends. I remember a time when my mom scolded my bro’s friend (gal) for calling late. The next year she tied a rakhi to my bro and things were fine. My mom even allows him to go and visit her place. I was shocked at it. What I could never do was done by a dead piece of thread…!!!

I am still thinking what went wrong. Some times I do think that my pics with my friends are not good. I even stopped showing my pics with my friends to my parents in order to avoid those n number of questions. I wonder what can put an end to these never ending questions , a thought comes to my mind. DRAWING THE LINE…if people learn to do this, they will never be able to think about these foolish issues. So elders please GROW UP…!!!


"Its not the mistake of your eyes, they see what is happening,
But its your mind, that deciphers things in the wrong way"


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